Naomi D. Nakashima on Overcoming Self-Doubt: How to Conquer Imposter Syndrome and Write Your Book with Confidence

Have you ever felt like a fraud, even when you've achieved success? You ever look at those achievements and diminish them somehow?

Kind of like when someone tells you that you’re a good writer and you dismiss it because they’re your friend or your parent or your sibling or partner, so of course they have to tell you you’re good.

Imposter syndrome is an internalized feeling of inadequacy, despite external evidence of success. It's common among high-achievers and can affect writers in particular.

What is Imposter Syndrome?

Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which individuals doubt their skills, accomplishments, and talents and have an internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud. Those who experience imposter syndrome often attribute their successes to luck or external factors rather than their own abilities. Even in the face of  external evidence of their competence, they remain convinced they do not really deserve the recognition or accolades they receive.

For writers, this imposter syndrome often comes with a feeling that they don’t have “the right” to write the story they want to write.

Why it's important to overcome it in writing

As you can imagine, trying to write a story while at the same time feeling like you don’t have “the right” to tell that story can lead to a lot of complications. Add to that the fact that writing often entails a level of vulnerability, and any feelings of imposter syndrome can be exacerbated quickly if not addressed.

Writers often put themselves out there with their ideas and stories, facing criticism and the possibility of rejection. When we believe that we are imposters or that our success is undeserved, we become less likely to take risks and share our work with others. This can hold us back from achieving our goals as writers and hinder our creativity. In order to be successful as a writer, it's essential to learn how to recognize and overcome imposter thoughts so that we can write with confidence and authenticity.

Strategies for Recognizing and Challenging Imposter Thoughts

One way to recognize imposter thoughts is by paying attention to the language you use when talking about yourself and your writing. Do you often use negative self-talk or minimize your achievements?

If so, try challenging those thoughts with evidence that proves them wrong. For example, if you think "My writing isn't as good as other writers," look for positive feedback from readers or editors who enjoyed your work. And remember the phrase “facts over feelings.” Looking at this evidence that your writing is good won’t do you much good if you turn around and rely instead on your “feeling” that it wasn’t deserved for some reason. Instead of focusing on your feeling about the feedback, focus on the fact that you got the feedback.

Additionally, try surrounding yourself with supportive people who believe in your abilities as a writer. They can offer encouragement and constructive feedback that will help build confidence in your skills.

By recognizing these common imposter thoughts and developing strategies for overcoming them or even proving them to be wrong, you can break through your mental barriers and focus on your craft with clarity and confidence. 

Building Confidence as a Writer

Writing a book can be a daunting task, especially when you're plagued by self-doubt and imposter syndrome. So let’s work on some ways to build that confidence back up!

Celebrate your successes

When you’re feeling vulnerable and inadequate, it’s pretty easy to see all the mistakes—the low word count, the lack of writing time, the slow progress on your book. However, it's important to take time to celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

Did you finish a chapter? Did you receive positive feedback from a beta reader?

Celebrate these milestones and give yourself credit for the hard work that went into achieving them. Writing is tough, so it's crucial to acknowledge your accomplishments along the way.

Surround yourself with supportive people

Although writing can be a solitary activity, you don’t have to be totally alone. Surrounding yourself with supportive people can make all the difference in your writing journey.

Find other writers who understand what you're going through and can offer encouragement or advice when needed. Join writing groups or attend workshops where you can connect with like-minded individuals who share your passion for storytelling.

Learn from hurdles and setbacks

One of the most valuable things you can do as a writer is to learn from your hurdles and setbacks. When something isn't working in your writing - whether it's a plot point that fell flat or dialogue that doesn't ring true - take some time to reflect on what went wrong.

Start by asking yourself some questions: What were my intentions with this scene/character/plot point? What did I hope to achieve? And why didn’t it achieve that? Once you've identified what went wrong, brainstorm some ways you could improve upon it next time.

Other hurdles might include distractions, things like phone calls or family members vying for your attention. 

It's also important not to beat yourself up over mistakes or failures. Remember that every successful writer has encountered plenty of obstacles along the way - it's all part of the journey!

Instead, approach each setback as an opportunity for growth and improvement. By learning from your mistakes and staying focused on your goals, you'll be well on your way to overcoming imposter syndrome and writing the book of your dreams.

Find Your Writing Voice

One of the biggest challenges writers face when dealing with imposter syndrome is feeling like they don't have a unique voice. This can cause them to doubt their abilities and struggle to find the motivation to write.

I’ve been saying for years: some of the best writing ever only comes when the writer is so deep inside their comfort zone that theirs is the only voice they can hear. Embracing your unique voice means being willing to take risks and write from the heart.

Unfortunately, a lot of new authors hate their writing because they’re waiting for it to sound like someone else wrote it—some more authorly writer. Don't try to mimic someone else's writing style or be something you're not just because you think it will make you more successful. Instead, focus on what makes your writing stand out and embrace that as your strength.

Final Thoughts

Imposter syndrome is a common experience that many writers face. It can hold you back from reaching your full potential as a writer, but it's important to recognize that it doesn't have to.

By understanding what imposter syndrome is, identifying your own imposter thoughts, and building confidence as a writer, you can overcome this hurdle and write the book you've always dreamed of. Remember to celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem.

Naomi D. Nakashima is a bestselling author of nonfiction, a ghostwriter with 20 years experience, a trained psychotherapist, and a TikTok writing coach with thousands of followers who attend her coaching events and regular Q&As. Everything I Need to Know About Parenting I Learned from Watching Star Trek, her first book published under her name, became an international Amazon bestseller and stayed on the bestseller list for step-parenting and blended families for three years.

Coping with Writerly Self-Doubt (and a Pandemic!)

By the debut group Class of 2K20 Books

(Twitter @Class2k20Books; Instagram @class2k20books)

Writing is an exercise in self-doubt--as several debut 2020 middle grade and young adult authors can attest. In addition to the usual feelings of self-doubt creeping up, many debut authors are also dealing with doubts due to the pandemic--who will come to a virtual launch? Will any books sell? Will I ever sell another book? Can I even write another book? So, how do these writers get through it--and keep on writing? 

First, it’s important to understand that writing is an artistic process, and because of that, it’s also one that is fraught. “Self-doubt and imposter syndrome is the hardest part of being an artist, for me. When I write, I’m in love with my work, but when I re-read, I think of an audience who may not like what I have to say, and I become filled with self-doubt,” says Kath Rothschild, author of the forthcoming WIDER THAN THE SKY. KayLynn Flanders, author of SHIELDED, attests that “coming up with the actual words and knowing how imperfect they are? That’s hard.” And Lorien Lawrence, author of THE STITCHERS, cannot count the times self-doubt has crept up during the writing and revision process! 

How do these and other debut authors cope with self-doubt in the time of quarantine? They suggest three things to keep in mind. 

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Trust Your Process

Lorien Lawrence suggests there are several ways to combat that self-doubt, but one is to trust your own writing process. “One of the hardest things about being a writer is keeping your eyes on your own paper. This is especially true with the writing process: do what works for YOU, not what works for your friends, CPs, or the plethora of people giving advice on Twitter.” And Andrea Contos, author of the forthcoming THROWAWAY GIRLS, says: “I’m learning to jump in without hesitation, and trust that the story will get where it needs to be. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve gotten ⅔ of the way into a manuscript, only to discover something I added to the beginning--without really knowing why--ended up being absolutely crucial to the end.” Trusting that the story will come is a key piece of continuing to write in tough times. 

For KayLynn Flanders, getting the words--or really, any words--down on the page is enough to give her confidence for another day of writing. “You can’t edit a blank page, so I power through it as best as I can.” All the debut authors in the Class of 2K20 Books agree that the first step must be to get your first draft written. It can even be, as several authors call it: a steaming pile of garbage that you will need to spend a long time—longer than you think—revising. But we revise, and we get better. But to do that, the words have to be on the page. 

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Be True to Yourself and Your Path

Getting out of the self-doubt rut can be difficult--but honoring your own path is one way. “It’s important to look within your own experiences, and what comes naturally to you as a writer,” says Tanya Guerrero, author of HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE SEA and the forthcoming ALL YOU KNEAD IS LOVE. When we allow ourselves to be guided not by an imagined audience, but by our own deeply honest and sometimes painful truths, we can access real stories that will resonate with us and hopefully, with readers, too. “Self-doubt can, at its worst, keep me from writing what I want to write--often more edgy scenes or more honest portrayals of what it was, for me, to be a teen,” says Kath Rothschild. 

It’s also essential to focus on our own well-being and our own writing projects, and tune out the drone of others. “It’s so incredibly easy to compare your journey to someone else’s. Query request rates, how quickly you get an agent, how many offers you get, whether you get a book deal and then how many starred reviews you get and what your book’s marketing budget looks like. There’s a never-ending list. That’s why it’s so important to remember that every writer has a different path, and none are more valid than the next. Focus on your own work and your own journey and trust that you’re where you need to be,” says Andrea Contos, and KayLynn Flanders (who is also an editor) agrees. “Every path to publication is different, and it’s easy to get caught up in thinking that something that worked for someone else is how it has to happen for you. But comparison is a thief of joy—keep your eyes on your own paper, and celebrate every milestone you meet, every success you see!”

Have a Support System 

In the writing community, there are generally three writing support groups. There are betas, readers who will read your work and tell you what they think, there are critique partners (CPs) who will exchange manuscripts with you and you can tell each other what your think, and there are critique groups, or small groups of authors usually within the same genre who exchange manuscripts regularly. Have as many of them as you can to deal with self-doubt and keep going. “I’m really fortunate to have connected with my MG Squad, Shannon Doleski, Lorien Lawrence and Janae Marks almost right after we joined our debut group. We bounce ideas off of each other, share writing samples and talk craft. Those moments are invaluable, because there are moments filled with self-doubt, and it’s great to be able to get advice or feedback when those moments arise,” says Tanya Guerrero. Lorien Lawrence and Janae Marks, author of FROM THE DESK OF ZOE WASHINGTON, both agree that friendly writer accountability is essential. 

Janae Marks introduces a fourth writing community support group: accountability buddies. Marks was working on her second book when she was struck by self-doubt. “I worried whether the second book would ever be good enough, but I also doubted whether I could actually complete the work during a distracting and terrifying global crisis. What helped me a lot was getting an accountability buddy. As I worked on my revisions, I sent chapters to another author friend, who quickly read for me, provided some feedback, and told me to keep going! I don't know that I could've hit my deadline without her support!” 

Critique groups, partners, and buddies can keep you focused on what’s important. Amanda Sellet shares an essential piece of advice from her CPs: “Of the many, many pieces of wisdom my local writer friends, Tessa Gratton and Natalie Parker, have shared, the one I come back to most often of late is this: If you’re not leveling up your craft, what’s the point? Meaning, don’t get so caught up in all the noise about the business side of publishing that you forget what really matters: growing as a writer, and doing your best work.” Of her critique group, Cathleen Barnhart, author of THAT’S WHAT FRIENDS DO, says: “Our once-a-month Sunday morning meetings are vital for me, and the feedback, support and commiseration of the group has carried me through so much.”  And Amy Noelle Parks, author of THE QUANTUM WEIRDNESS OF THE ALMOST KISS, recommends creating a smaller group within a larger one--for her it was the Class of 2K20 within the Roaring 20s debut group, but that might also look like a small local group within the larger SCBWI community. “As an introvert,” Parks says, “the hundreds of people in the 2020 debut group felt completely overwhelming. Having this smaller group of people who I can learn from has been invaluable.” 

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And keep going, even if it’s virtual! A.J. Sass, author of the forthcoming ANA ON THE EDGE, finds that having a routine which involves regular meetings (virtual at the moment) with other writers is incredibly helpful. “I meet weekly with a group of writers, with the aim of making progress toward our writing goals. We also leave time to talk about our uncertainties and doubts. Writing can be isolating, so it’s comforting to know that you're not alone when you’re feeling stuck, or even doubting your ability to get through a particular scene. Lean on your writing friends. And offer support when they need it as well.” And Kath Rothschild also recommends having a weekly standing Zoom date with a CP or CG to commiserate. “My writing group, the Panama Math and Science Club, meet every week for an hour for a writing check-in, and once a month to critique over Zoom. Each time I’m reminded of why we all write--and must continue to do so.” 

But in addition to having a strong writing community, it’s essential for many authors to have a familial and extended community support system—whether in person or via FaceTime or Zoom. Amanda Sellet, author of BY THE BOOK: A NOVEL OF PROSE AND CONS attests to the importance of family support: “A few months shy of my debut, my little sister, who is an incredibly busy lawyer and mom, worked with a friend to design a t-shirt featuring a slogan from my book (#WWJAD, as in ‘What Would Jane Austen Do?’).”This type of celebratory support is important at every step of the writing process. KayLynn Flanders agrees: “My husband encourages me when I get discouraged, learns publishing lingo and practices so he can freak out with me when I get good news. My kids help me brainstorm ideas and inspire me and play while I write. I could never have accomplished what I have without them.”

Family can even help you remember why you should prioritize writing in the first place. Cathleen Barnhart, was offered a part time job after she had decided to focus solely on writing. “I went off to a writing conference with my sister, Amanda. I told her that I was planning to take the teaching job, and she asked me a whole bunch of questions to help me see that doing so was a bad idea. That summer, I finished my novel, and in the fall, I started sending it to agents.” And Kath Rothschild will always remember what her dad told her when she asked him if she should study law. He said: “what about writing?” 

In this tough time, creatives’ self-doubt can be more triggered than usual. The Class of 2K20 hopes these strategies to trust your process, be true to your own stories, and to seek and accept support help you get back to the keyboard!  

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